Using Male Chastity and the Honor System in your FLR

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Does It Work

Male Chastity is an interesting practice in a female led relationship. Does the the male need to wear a cage to make this a reality? The truth is that male chastity can be implemented using the honor system. The honor system is a way to keep the male denied without having him wear a cage. Is it 100% effective? It certainly can be though it does introduce the opportunity for an orgasm. The honor system relies on the male not masturbating or finishing during sex. As we know, men are trigger happy, so this can be tricky and it still can work.

Benefits of the Honor System

The honor system seems kind of boring to an outsider looking in. Chastity cages have a certain allure to them. They are a naughty little secret the couple shares between them. This alone can be stimulating for the couple. The honor system does have certain benefits for both the male and female. First, the male is free of any physical restraint. He has no cage to get in the way or work around. This can be nice in the summer months for swimming, outdoor activities and traveling. For the female, she has access to tease her partner by stimulating the penis. She can also enjoy penetration by her partner. This would be the primary benefit for the female. Some women prefer the real thing than using toys for penetration. Another benefit is that the woman does not have to be the keyholder and be responsible for locking and unlocking her man.

Disadvantages of the Honor System

Enforcement! The biggest disadvantage for the male is the lack of enforcement. The cage makes chastity a 24/7 kind of thing. It’s hard to forget about being locked up. It changes the way a male urinates, it changes the way he sleeps, it changes a lot. The honor system keeps the normal life in place as far habits, routines, and such. A lot of males like the enforcement aspect of being locked. They like having a keyholder. They like the idea of surrender. It is a mental stimulation for them just wearing the cage and being under someone else’s control.

Accidents. Going over the edge and having an orgasm is another disadvantage of the honor system. If you are going for a certain orgasm free time for the male this can definitely stop the clock. Every time a male has an orgasm, a host of chemical reactions take place in the male brain. For those women who like their man to be highly aroused at all times then this will put a break into the action.

A lot of FLR sites will always mention the man sneaking off to masturbate. On the honor system masturbation is out. If the female does not trust the male not to masturbate then the honor system will be a problem. I think for most who get to this point, the days of masturbation are behind them and a non-issue.

Making the Honor System Work

The honor system can work and work quite well. It takes work on both sides. For the woman, she needs to be firm during sex and know that the male can explode quite quickly. Using penetration positions where she is on top can be helpful because she controls the amount of stimulation. Having penetrative sex and also stimulating the clitoris works well too. This puts the attention on the clitoris while also allowing her to enjoy the sensation of being penetrated. It gives the male a job of stimulating her with his hands. Practice, practice, practice. The more you do something the better you get at it.

Desensitizing creams or penis covers can also help keep the sensation down. If you are both committed to the FLR lifestyle and making her pleasure a priority then it will work itself out. One thing she can do is be a little verbal about the enforcement of the honor system, keeping him aware that he is not in charge and not allowed to climax unless she allows.

For couples that have been together a longtime outside of FLR, it will take time to develop these new habits around using the honor system. Make sure she get her orgasms as often as she wants. A little enforcement can go along way to keep it stimulating for him. For those that want male chastity and not the cage, then perhaps the honor system will be a helpful route to take.