Patience Works Best- The Golden Rule Of FLR

In our modern world we have access to so much instant information that we sometimes forget about this thing called patience. Making a change into a female led relationship takes a lot of patience. Even though the benefits are great for both the male and the female, one person may not see it that way in the beginning. Remember the saying, patience is a virtue. In making changes, patience is the golden rule especially in a female led relationship. What you want can happen, it takes time to develop.

The best thing to do is to take it slow and be patient with each other. FLR can require a lot of communication. As a couple you may be communicating more than usual. This alone can be quite a change. I know in my life, my wife has her priorities and FLR does not always get first billing in trying new things or communicating ideas. I have found that the slow road is often the fast road.

Another thing about FLR is all the variety of information on the internet about it. Some folks see FLR as a true dominant/submissive relationship when in fact it is just a relationship where the women is in charge. You could run your FLR as a D/S or not, it’s up to you. The point is that it takes time to work through all the varied information on what a FLR can be for you and your partner.

The reality is this…it is your relationship and you should structure it as the both of you see fit. Be patient about it, if the benefits are truly there for each other then you will move right along in adopting what you create in your partnership. Patience is a way to support each other.

In the end, we still have busy lives and other things to do. For most couples, a female led relationship is a not a switch you just flick and everything is changed. For married couples especially you may have years of marital ways you are now reprogramming. While FLR is freeing in a lot fo ways for both partners is does take time adjusting to the needs of the woman and making them a priority.

Many women will need to take this area slow and progress at their own comfort level. As much as you both may want a FLR, you may still have to unlearn many beliefs about your relationship you have adopted from culture. Slow and steady is a nice pace. As the woman takes the reins of the relationship the man also need to adjust to it. It’ll be different for everybody.

Buckminster Fuller said unlearning is the hardest part of learning. He was right, our inherited beliefs around relationships have strong roots. The slow road helps unlearning of the old ways. One suggestion is not do it all at once. Pick a few areas of the relationship and gradually let her make the decisions and have control over what is going on. I think you’ll find it more focused and enjoyable. It will allow the male to support the women and bring attention to the fact that she is now in charge.

As always, remember to be open and communicate. For more detail on this subject you can always check out my book here.