Do men really need orgasms in Female Led Relationships?

Often in female led relationships the question comes up of how often should the male have an orgasm? As the female is in charge of the relationship including all things in the bedroom, it is up to her whether the male has an orgasm or not. While no one can agree on the right frequency of orgasm for a man per week/month/year, let’s take the question to another level. Does a man need an orgasm at all? This is a tough question to answer accurately because no concrete scientific data exists to support the case either way. Science supports both the benefits of semen retention (no orgasm) and also ejaculation (orgasm).

Will A Man Actually Surrender To A No Orgasm Relationship?

The astonishing answer is yes. Male chastity is a popular practice in female led relationships. Many suggest an initial lock-up period of up to a year when starting chastity after everyone is comfortable and kinks are worked out (no pun intended). Going a year with no orgasm is basically a no orgasm relationship for the male. The female may keep the man hopeful and tease and deny him constantly. While this sounds harsh, it is something that some men want in these relationships. While this may make no sense on the surface, denying and teasing a man is both frustrating and invigorating. This allows the woman a fair amount of control. And the male is more than eager to please her in any way she wants.

Male chastity is often introduced by the male. Men are curious creatures and controlling their orgasms is it’s own form of excitement on many levels. See my post on male chastity for more information on this interesting subject.

Deciding What Works For You

Knowing no harm occurs with or without a male orgasm, it becomes a choice of what works best for the relationship. If you are having this conversation in your relationship, congratulations, you are doing well in establishing that the female orgasm comes first. I have read many articles that say orgasms are only for the female in FLR. I have also read articles that suggest male orgasms are a reward system or limited to ruined orgasms or given out sparingly. Ultimately, it is up to the female to decide. Being in a healthy loving relationship is the first step. When you have a healthy foundation in your relationship, you can try new things and keep the communication open and honest.

I think if you pulled back the curtain on female led relationships you will find that most men are having many orgasms in the relationship. This stems from a lot of reasons. One, females like sex and like to the feeling of intercourse. Women still want to reward their men and an orgasm is a great reward, one that they works well. Three, females even though they are in charge are not that interested in denying their men as a way of doing business. Four, women do not really think that much about this stuff. They like having a fun and being in an exciting relationship but are more focused on daily tasks then focusing on abstract concepts like controlling the orgasm. Many reasons exist for men enjoying orgasms in female led relationships.

It’s all about benefits and rewards. In deciding what works in your relationship, you need to be daring and see what works well and does not work. As stated, scientifically speaking, the male body benefits from both ejaculating and abstaining so when a someone says that men do not need an orgasm, they are not wrong. Conversely, when someone says men benefit from orgasms, they too are not wrong. The bigger picture here is to remember that female needs come first. Male orgasms can trigger rather quickly while female orgasms take more time to have. The main idea is to allow the relationship to blossom and have the female orgasm come prime to the male. If it works best for the couple by the male having no orgasms then that is something they need to figure out.

Can A Couple Be Happy With No Male Orgasms?

What might get overshadowed in this conversation is that men care deeply about satisfying their partner and the men in FLR’s are committed to their female. Also, having no orgasms as a male does not mean no intimacy. It can be quite the opposite. Focusing solely on the female needs can create a lot of time in the bedroom and many orgasms for her. Making love in this scenario is about the the whole being better than the sum of its parts. Together the female has intense multiple orgasms, and the male is participating and sharing in those moments. Not something to take lightly.

Are men happy having lots of sex? Generally speaking, yes! Does it matter that much if they orgasm or not? Once the couple experiences sex without a male orgasm it really can really change the narrative. The flip side is that a male can be quite happy in this scenario as crazy as it sounds.

Taking The Hybrid Approach

Realistically, women focus on different things and are probably not comfortable making permanent choices like no more orgasms for their partners. Now that is not say that some women may take to the lifestyle, see the benefits and decide no male orgasms. For the majority of FLR’s, it’s a balancing act of what works and what you have time for and what you are willing to try.

Male chastity and orgasm denial are definitely worth trying. If nothing else, it allows the woman to be in control and to not compete with the penis. They get to put it away and focus on exactly what they want. Men will generally have more energy, attention and focus on their partners with no or a limited orgasm frequency. That is a good thing for both.

Women who enjoy PIV sex will still want it. They can decide on the frequency and they can also engage in PIV sex and not allow their partner to orgasm (it takes a little concentration for the male). Many possibilities exist. I suggest the trial and error approach to see what works best for your situation. As far as the question do men really need orgasms? Let’s leave it up to the females to decide after all they know best!