Many times the idea of a female led relationship is brought up by the man. Speaking in general terms, a lot of men have desires to be submissive to a woman. It is part fantasy and part reality for the man. The trick is not get caught in just one side of it. While the idea of having your woman dominate you sexually can be quite a hot fantasy (for both), it is not reality. Life goes on outside of the bedroom. Furthermore, it would put FLR just into bedroom play only and that would be cutting off the better part of a female led relationship. Men also have this thing called chivalry– men feel better when helping our ladies. Being the knight in shining armor plays into a side of the male that has become almost lost in relationships after the initial courtship. FLR taps into both the fantasy and real chivalry that still lingers in men.
Beyond Fantasy
Outside of the fantasy, a real and powerful thing happens in FLR and that is empowering the female and allowing the male to serve (chilvary). These are big ideas and not to be taken too lightly or too seriously. They are what they are; it is a way to be in the relationship. The best way to enact this is to be committed to a female led relationship and let it take shape the way it will.
You may have heard the statement- Force Negates. Well, that is certainly true in a relationship. You cannot force FLR or a fantasy or really anything. You need to be open to it and keep working at it. Commitment shows your partner you are into it and not just for the fantasy aspect. Actions speak powerfully.
Being in a female led relationship allows dialogue on each others wants and needs. Ongoing communication about the relationship helps shape the nature of your FLR. Sometimes the wants and needs are simple, like alone time to read a book, or a massage, or to get something off your chest. A female led relationship takes time to evolve. Both of you are learning about yourself and each other. Enjoy it.
Embrace Commitment
By committing to it, you are establishing it in your life. Some of the bedroom activities may have to go into the background at times, and that’s okay. Focus on the everyday things that allow the male to serve and the female to lead. Commitment to her needs (both of you) will stabilize FLR and provide the opportunities to grow in your relationship. And as your relationship expands for the better, the opportunities in other areas present themselves. Overall, commitment to a FLR is being committed to each other and allowing the relationship to further evolve. However you have decided to craft your FLR stay committed to it. And if you need some inspiration, read the expert below, it is one of my favorites.
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.”