Be Prepared for Pampering
One thing you can be sure of in a female led relationship is the female being pampered often. As men we often in think and are turned on in terms of sex and sexual submissive acts. It’s normal and part of the attraction of the FLR life. For women, it’s not always about sex. Sometimes it is more about the non-sexual things that make a huge difference and help the female relax and unwind. This is where pampering becomes important. Part of the fun in a FLR is finding out what the female likes and to do more of it for her.
For example, if she is on her feet most of the day then foot massages may feel really good to her. Sometimes it may not be that obvious, however, a ton things exist that you can do to make her life easier and more relaxed. For some of us, she will come out and tell us what she wants, for others you may have to draw it out over time.
Massages
One place to start is with massages. They can be simple, easy to do, and they do not require too much thought or planning. Sometimes just rubbing the shoulders and neck of your partner is all that is needed to make her feel special. While not all women love massages, the ones that do tend to really like them and appreciate them. Find out what they like, and do your best to make it happen as often as you can. My wife has rarely turned down a massage. In our FLR, she requests them quite often. It’s a fun way to keep the FLR dynamic in play.
As for actually giving a massage, the idea is to make it enjoyable for the other person. That can be easier said than done if you do not know what you are doing. If you happen to be a novice and you want to give massages, maybe watch some videos from experts and learn the techniques. That can go a long way for providing an enjoyable experience and also not hurting your own body in the process.
Massages come in a wide range. You can literally go from head to toe, and from casual on the couch to very sensual in the bedroom. Have fun with it, find out what works and mix it in. Also, you can use lotions and oils to enhance the experience. For foot massages, lotions work well. A good foot lotion will hydrate the skin and also add therapeutic properties to make the skin feel better and relaxed. For back massages you can use lotions, or oils. They make massage bars that utilize body heat to melt the oil onto the skin.
Pampering from the Kitchen
Your kitchen can be a great place to add a little pampering. Making her her favorite drink, snack or meal can be a treat for her. Once again something simple like making her a hot drink or a cocktail maybe all that is needed to add a little pampering to her day. Put together an appetizer before dinner or while she is reading or watching a show is nice too. Let your imagination go with it and have fun making her day feel special. Many woman just like to have a break from the day and be alone for a few minutes. These small treats go a long way to giving her some space and also a little comfort.
Pampering with a One on One Attention
It’s nice to be seen and it’s better to be heard. Yet another form of pampering is being an ear for her to talk to. Being a great listener has no downside. After a long day sometimes she just may like to talk about her day to you. How well do you give her your undivided attention when she speaks. Being present with her is the greatest gift you can give in my humble opinion. Listen to her, ask engaging questions, and let her tell you about her day. It’s a great way to connect.
In our fast paced lives everyone is trying to get your attention. Go ahead and give her some of your attention. This practice will help you both feel better. Woman recharge through social interaction. You will know more about her by knowing what is going on in her day. If this is new for you and her, start small. Go ahead and engage her with some questions about her day. Does she work? What does she do? Does she have a long commute? How is that going for her?
The idea once again is simple. Connect with her and be a great listener. It will help foster a stronger and more beneficial relationship. She is in command, listen to her on many levels.
One on one attention can also be brought into the bedroom. That subject can be its own post but we can end with this: pampering can be done in many forms and in many ways. It doesn’t always have to be about the bedroom, it can be done many ways. The key is to find ways to pamper her, and when you find something she likes and appreciates, do it often.