The FLR Journey- One Step At A Time

Where To Start

Starting a female led relationship is a journey not a destination. For many men, this starts with a desire to be dominated by a female. I think more correctly, it is wanting to explore your submissive side. As a male, exploring your submissive side can be scary and it can be equally scary as a female exploring your dominant side. That is why it is best to take the FLR journey one step at a time. What is meant by that is to take things slowly. Creating a female led relationship may be one of the best moves for your relationship, it doesn’t mean it has to happen instantly. And in trying to do it quickly can create confusion and lack of interest.

Taking Change Slowly

In my book, I reiterate to take things slowly. Many of the changes that occur in a female led relationship are contrary to normal relationships where the man “wears” the pants in the family. Having the female in charge, while often a smart move, can be an adjustment for both people. It is not wrong to feel this way, we are just used to things being a certain way. One way to take it slow is to have a few things that she takes control of right away. This allows the couple to take steps towards her being in charge. Neither person is overwhelmed by a sudden change. If it feels right then by all means, have at it. Just be aware it can be a lot for some people to deal with. Change can be difficult even when it is what you want.

One thing I have learned about women is that they think differently then men. They focus on the many things in front of them for the day. Men tend to think in terms of projects that need to get completed while not thinking about all the other things around them that need attention as well. By the nature of how women think, making a sudden change can feel overwhelming because they already have enough on their plate each day. Once you understand this you can use it to make life easier for you and your partner by not trying to do too much at one time. Some women will just shut-off and want nothing to do with it, at least for a while, if they are feeling overwhelmed.

Take Things Off Her Plate

One of the best benefits of FLR for the woman is that she now has someone to help her out as she sees fit. However, in the beginning she may be reluctant to step up and delegate things for the man to do. One way to counter this is to make it a point to take some things off her plate. This is where the female can start having her man help out more with what she needs done. If she feels reluctant to do this, then the man needs to step up and take the initiative to help her out.

Ask her what things he can do to help her. It may be running an errand, folding laundry, cleaning the bathroom, etc. It doesn’t matter what it is, it is the act of making her life easy that makes the difference. For the woman who is totally into this, remember to take it slow. Don’t overwhelm the other with too many things to do. Increase the work load over time as it fits in to each others schedule. Here is a fun fact, as the woman gives things for the man to do, he will be happy to do it. Remember, the man wants to serve his woman.

Communicate Each Step A Long The Way

Taking it slow allows time for communication at each step of the way. When we started out in FLR in my marriage, we would have a meeting once a week. We sat down and went through my wife’s schedule and went over things she wanted done that week. That gave us a chance to work on our relationship, talk about the things she wanted done, and when she would like them completed. It empowered her to speak up and it allowed me to understand her needs. While it only took 10 minutes or so to do each week, it was helpful in keeping both of us engaged in our new female led relationship.

Take It Slow In The Bedroom Too

We have been in a FLR for a few years now. My wife has kept me locked up in chastity for over 100 days a couple of times. Our sex life has a noticeable improvement since being in our FLR, it just keeps getting better. We have regular mind blowing sex. It did not happen over night, it is the culmination of taking it slow and steady, being vulnerable, trying things and course correcting when needed. There are things we are just beginning to talk about now that we would have been a real turn-off or an uncomfortable situation a year or two ago, male chastity being one of them. My wife likes it now, she thought it was a pretty strange thing when she first read about it on the internet years ago. That is the growth in our relationship by taking things one step at a time.

You Can Both Win In The End

The FLR Journey is definitely worth the price of admission. The benefits of being in a female led relationship are many and they keep expanding as you work at your FLR. The thing for most couples is to take it slow, get to know each others wants a little deeper. Find ways to have the man serve her. Take the initiative when the other is a little hesitant. Be loving, be patient, be understanding, and for the female be firm in what you want and make sure you are getting it even it if it means going one step at a time. You’ll both be truly amazed in how far you can go in your FLR.