Embrace Her Needs- Adding Weekly Meetings in FLR

One of the best ways to understand each others needs is to get together regularly and discuss them. When starting out in a female led relationship it can be a benefit to sit down and go through what is going on each week.

Focusing On Her Needs In FLR

When doing your weekly meetings, make sure they focus on addressing her needs. One way to do it is to first focus on her needs, then on her wants, and then address any conflicts that will get in the way.

This is a good time for the man to check in and see how he is progressing in the relationship. Is she happy withy what he is doing? What things need improved? For the women providing feedback to male is also important. One other suggestion, is that the meetings also allow a “Safe Space”. Relationship elements can be discussed openly and honestly. For the man, it can be a vulnerable act to talk about their feelings.

To keep continuity, it is best to finds a time that will work each week for each person. Once you have 5-6 weeks under your belt of doing these, you’ll see how beneficial they can be. The meetings do a few things in particular.

• Meetings provide allotted time to focus on the relationship
• They provide frequency of interaction (an ingredient to foster cooperation)
• Provides an opportunity to address her needs
• Feedback on how things are progressing
• Reinforces her leadership
• Provides a “Safe Space” to talk about elements of the relationship
• Fosters open communication
• Outlines items to accomplish each week to stay productive

Getting Started

If the idea of having short and concise weekly meeting resonates with you. Talk to your partner about. Discuss the benefits and go ahead and schedule one. Its is a positive step in creating a lasting female led relationship.

If you want more information on the subject, I recommend checking out the book by Surrender, Submit, Serve Her by Key Barrett. The author lays out what he calls Command and Conquer meetings for the couple. It provides a framework to get started in your own life. I do like the term Command and Conquer, its fun and forward moving.

No matter what you chose to do, it is important to finds ways to support her leadership. Something simple like a weekly meetings can certainly do that and are a great first step when starting out. Building a strong foundation in a female led relationship is important. When her needs are being addressed it can open time for other things to happen in the relationship. You can fill in the blanks how ever you see fit!