You Did What? Introducing Pegging To Your FLR

Introducing Pegging into the Bedroom Activities

One of the most memorable times I stepped off the ledge in vulnerability with my wife was with the introduction of pegging. I am not sure how I even discovered it, but once I did I found it rather intriguing. When you have a submissive side to your nature as a man you are always looking out of the corner of your eye for a way to explore it. For me, pegging was that exploration.

What is Pegging?

It is a great question. I had never heard of it myself. If you are not informed as of yet, pegging is when a woman penetrates a man anally by use of a harnessed dildo aka “strap-on”. That is it; she takes him from behind. Now how could this ever be a hard topic to talk about with a partner? Of course I am being sarcastic! This is not your typical chatter around the coffee table type of conversation. And to boot, a man being penetrated anally carries many stereo types with it.

Don’t Worry You Are Not Gay If You Like Pegging

I’m here to tell you to relax about all this. Having a desire to let go and be taken from behind as a man by your female partner does not make you gay. It definitely may put you in the kinky category but it does not mean you are gay. I think for some people that may be an issue, it can be scary to go out on a limb and try something out of the ordinary. Pegging certainly fits that role.

It is definitely a gender bender. And that is part of the fun. The woman gets to dominate by being the one penetrating, a role typically the man performs. Remember, you are only a homosexual if you are attracted to same sex, so let any fears you have about it go.

What’s In It For The Man?

Each person may want to try pegging for different reasons. For some men, it will be the joy of having the prostrate stimulated, also know as the P-spot or P-gasm. Others may be attracted to certain naughtiness of the deed in and of itself. And also, some men may really enjoy the act of surrender and giving up control. Being penetrated is a submissive act. Pegging has a mental and physical component to it. Both the mental and physical aspects are what may bring joy to the act of pegging.

What’s In It For The Woman?

For the woman, it can be the joy of providing a pleasurable experience for your partner. It can also be fun to switch roles and be the dominant one doing the penetration. Mentally, it can be a real head trip to take control and have the man be submissive to you. If you are trying to establish control as the leader in a FLR, pegging can certainly help express your authority. And of course, it can be the adrenaline of doing something naughty like bending over your partner.

One interesting component of a man being taken by his woman is that he now knows what it feels like to be penetrated. Regular intercourse can be improved because the man has more information about what he is doing. He has walked in his lover’s shoes. Experience is a great teacher!

Gearing Up

Pegging requires the use of a sex toy and a harness. The term “strap-on” refers to the harness the female wears to support the dildo. It is also prudent to mention, plenty of lubricant is required too. Otherwise, it’ll be hard to get the dildo inserted and also not be enjoyable.

Pegging is part of the mainstream sex toy industry so you do not have to go looking very far to find what you need. One of my favorite sites is Tantus for buying toys. All of their toys are made from toxic free material. That is a big deal especially when inserting something into your body. Many low price sex toys may contain lower grade materials with toxic content. Buyers beware. The site, PeggingParadise.com by Ruby Rider, in my opinion, is the best place to learn all about the pegging world. Ruby has hundreds of podcast episodes devoted to pegging education. She is a true sex educator in this genre. She is also a great podcaster, speaker and writer with a solid opinion on pegging. If you are excited about pegging, Ruby is your person to check out for starters. You can email her when you have your first pegging experience and she will celebrate it on her podcast.

When purchasing gear I also suggest picking up a butt plug to try out as well. A plug is an easy way to introduce your body to the feelings/sensations/ mechanics of having something inserted in side of your rectum. It also works as a valuable warm up tool prior to pegging. Something to consider.

At a minimum you’ll need a dildo and lube. The harness provides the ability to support the dildo at waist level thus providing the women with the “cock”. I think a lot of women look sexy in a harness as well. It’s a fun thing to try.

Giving It A Try

To Peg Or Not To Peg? It is a decision to be made by the couple. If both are willing, then absolutely, go for it. If one partner has concerns then take it slow and educate each other. Like most things not of conventional acceptance, a partner may be shy to bring it up for fear of a negative reaction. The first obstacle is always getting out of our own way. If you are in a female led relationship than you have already taken steps outside the normal boundaries of society.

Until you bring it up, your partner may not come around on their own accord. Is it worth taking the first step? If it is something you want to experience then yes, you need to talk to your partner about it. My humble suggestion is to bring this up at an appropriate time. Even with the most open person it still is a vulnerable topic, so use good judgement.

Pegging can be a fun and rewarding activity for a couple. It certainly plays into the submissive and dominant parts of the relationship if that turns you on. Like all things, to do it optimally it will require education, communication, a sense of humor and the willingness ti be yourself. Good luck in your pegging adventures. Remember be patient with trying anything new. Who knows it may someday become the “new” normal in your life, it just takes time to get down the road.

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