It’s All About The Relationship
One thing I realized early in my marriage is that is requires time and attention. I think the biggest thing is that your partner is not a mind reader, they will not know what your wants and needs are unless they are expressed. Implementing a female led relationship has helped my marriage go from good to great. It can work for you too. Need some reasons…I have identified 5.
1 Improves Communication
Let’s be honest, FLR is not the norm. Getting into a female led relationship takes serious communication. For most, one person has discovered this idea and needs to introduce it to the other. A lot of barriers get broken down in the process. Communication is a place where many couples have break downs. They say communication is the number one skill you need to succeed in life. A relationship is no different, communication is still a key indicator of success.
If you are considering starting a female led relationship, consider this, the female is now in charge. How well will this work. It is all dependent on your level of communication. While trial and error is in everything we do as humans so is communication. FLR brings a lot of topics to the forefront for couples. It invites new and different communication. It allows the opportunity for growth as a couple.
Being in a female led relationship will improve communication between partners.
2 Reduces Stress
Many times the stress in a relationship is based on this idea of “equal share”. He goes out one night with friends, so she gets to go out one night with friends, etc. Harmony and equality are not the same thing. Relationships that focus on harmony will reduce stress. Focusing on equality can increase stress. It all comes down to hormones. Men and women fire on a different set of hormones. The big idea is how they perceive the world. Women are much more dialed in to the day to day activities while men are more dialed into solving the bigger challenges or ideas.
Putting the woman in charge allows her needs to come first (provided she embraces FLR and takes command). And her needs are all the things that need to gone done in the present moment. This will reduce her stress, she now has the ability to run her day the way she sees fit. If she needs help she can have the male help out. It’s a bit of a paradox, the more commanding and direct she can be, the easier it is for the male to follow. Once again, clear communication works best. It also helps the man as well, he knows what she needs and can take care of her needs thus eliminating stress over something getting or not getting done.
Many times the male didn’t understand the importance of the matter. And she is stressed because she thinks the male doesn’t care and she has to do it all herself. Allowing her to communicate her needs and direct solutions clears up a lot of unnecessary stress and confusion.
3 Promotes Courage
Being in a female led relationship takes courage. Most people do not ask for they want. They dream about it and are afraid to take that first step forward. FLR in a lot of ways can be like shattering a glass ceiling. Once you get past your nerves and ask for what you want, the world starts to bend towards you. This may seem like a big idea and maybe it is, FLR takes a bit of vulnerability on each others part, maybe even a little more for the male. It is a good thing.
Once you take a step forward it becomes easier to take another step and another step. As your relationship improves, you gain confidence to take more chances in your relationship. My wife has laughed at many of my ideas through the years, not so much anymore. I have been consistent and a better communicator and have had the courage to just ask for something. The results keep improving.
For the woman, taking charge is a sign of courage. For many of us, we come from a culture where the women are not the leaders. Taking that first step can be scary. It takes courage to lead especially when you are going against the grain at the start. Even though you may have the love and support of the male, speaking the words can be a scary change. Step by step it becomes easier.
4 Excitement
A female led relationship is a hot topic. Taking your relationship and turning over to the female is exciting. If you want to add some excitement to your life try FLR. It can get really interesting when it all comes together. Not only do the dynamics around the house change, the dynamics in the bedroom change as well. When you are both all in and she has control of the male orgasm it gets really interesting. While most women are sweet hearts and extremely caring, this can bring out a playful side and sometimes stricter side of them.
When the female decides to say no, it can get exciting. It comes back to hormones again. Men are built for arousal and woman are built for orgasms. Having her in charge takes this to a new level. For the guys, you will most likely have times where your balls are swollen from being aroused and not finishing. For the ladies, you will most likely have times where you have amazing orgasm in multiple fashion.
Aside from the bedroom, it is exciting for each partner to take on different roles and create a better relationship. Whenever my wife steps up and takes charge it is exciting to see her enthusiastic about an idea and taking charge.
5 Promotes Intimacy
A lot of women say that FLR promotes chivalry. Chivalry is just a layer of intimacy. With better communication, less stress, more courage, and a bit of excitement, you cannot help but become more intimate. FLR reduces the barriers blocking intimacy. It is the feeling of intimacy that matters. Feeling secure in your self and your relationship is what it is all about. FLR creates a place for each couple to create what they want and feel secure about it.
Making sure her needs are met is the first step. When the female is supported and feels safe and secure, it leads to her wanting and allowing intimacy. The spark that is created in a FLR makes many things feel intimate. It s easier to be engaged together. You are both working in harmony.
A healthy and loving FLR takes time to develop. If you put the time in and review what is needed from each other then you can have an amazing time both in and out of the bedroom. One supports the other. A great home life leads to a great sex life. Being the mood matters, a female led relationship can keep you in the mood for better and better things to come.